Contact

How to Increase Connection When You Haven’t Seen Someone for Awhile

I am in London this week for the Thinkers50 event. We had Stuart Crainer and Des Dearlove, founders of Thinkers50, on the podcast last week. (There are pics over on Instagram).

There are two things that I am thinking about in connection with this event. First, what do you talk about when you see people you haven’t seen for a while? For me, this situation is a little problematic. People are usually uncomfortable saying too much about their amazing lives, so they downplay the positive. Conversations about terrible current happenings are a downer for both parties.

I’ve been experimenting with this: tell me something that isn’t working, and something that is. It provides a way for people to bear witness to what we are struggling with, but also the emotional offset of talking about what is wonderful. I noticed that by talking about both, I felt more connected, which is usually a big reason we go to events like this.

Second, when I first went in person to Thinkers50 in 2015, I didn’t feel like I belonged. I knew few people; I squeaked into the rankings. Did I belong in this community? 

But even after being on the list since 2015, being nominated for the Leadership award in 2019, and being in the top 10 two years ago, I found myself wondering, do I belong? Upon reflection, those are old neural pathways talking. Sometimes, we feel something, and it’s not true. And so we disrupt ourselves. We decide we belong. We form new neural pathways. We deliberately self-innovate.

Now, over to you ––– what do you talk about when you have only a few brief moments to catch up with someone, besides, of course, giving them a hug because you are in person?

And, are there places where you once didn’t belong, but now you do, and it’s time to rewire your brain? Where is that place for you?

Our podcast guest this week is Dr. Bill Kapp, founder of Fountain Life, a health insurance company. One of my friends, Scott Dowling, has been telling me for well over a year that I needed to check out this company. So, I bought the book Lifeforce, co-authored by Tony Robbins, which forms the basis for this company. 

So this week, Dr. Kapp, an orthopedic surgeon and serial entrepreneur, shares how Fountain Life is taking on the health insurance industry. Their focus–and they intend that ours will be, too—is on good health rather than sick care. It could not only save trillions of dollars if we proactively took care before we got sick and practiced taking responsibility for our lives, becoming the CEO of our health. What a change it could make! Listen and enjoy!

As always, thanks for being here.

My best,
Whitney


P.S. In the spirit of constantly disrupting and improving, there are some changes ahead that I’d like to share. Beginning in 2024, the D is for Disruption newsletter will transition from a weekly publication to a monthly publication. My goal is to go deeper and build stronger connections. I have a lot on my mind, and I know you have a lot on yours. If there are ideas you’d like me to consider, please reply to this email and share. While you’ll see me in your inbox less frequently, I’ll still be actively sharing content and experiences on Instagram. Short-form content is reshaping how we engage. I invite you to follow me on Instagram at @johnsonwhitney, and we’ll disrupt together. In the meantime, we’ll continue with D is for Disruption on a weekly basis through the end of this year; the first monthly issue will begin on January 4, 2024. Let’s disrupt together!  

Click to access the login or register cheese